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Recently more and more people are attributing their problems after growing up to problems with their family of origin, but what exactly is a family of origin how do you separate from your family of origin?

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In recent years, there has been a buzzword called ‘family of origin’, which refers to the family that grows up from childhood, as opposed to the nuclear family that one forms as an adult.

A person’s maturity actually begins with saying goodbye to their family of origin. In the course of counselling multiple people, psychologists have found that many people are so deeply abducted by their family of origin that they are unable to live the life they want.
To become truly mature, one must first learn to separate from one’s family of origin, and this is the beginning of our true maturity and the beginning of our freedom to create our own life.

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  • Each one is an individual

Psychology has found that a newborn baby is in a mother-child symbiosis with us, but after six months, the baby enters a stage of separation and individualization with us.

And by the time the child is three years old, he or she is an independent self and can enter the Oedipus stage where competition is the theme. Many people are hurt by their family of origin mainly because they did not establish a good partnership with their parents in their family of origin, and when faced with the real world, their self-efficacy is weakened and they are slow to enter society, or they are not confident in facing society.

And if we want to heal the damage done by our family of origin, we have to see how it has shaped us, how our personality grows and the habits of our personal thinking, all of which will have its deep shadow.

  • Everyone has their own subject

Many people have their lives kidnapped by their parents. Perhaps we also need to understand early on that our parents are their parents’ lives and that everyone has their own subject.

It is very important to learn to distinguish between our own subject and that of others, which is fundamental for us to live a happy life or not.

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We necessarily need to understand that our family of origin is our family of origin, I am me and my parents are my parents, and the key to our ability to transcend our parents is that we can see how they think and how they have influenced me.

  • Learning to say goodbye to your family of origin is the beginning of your mental maturity

We don’t want our future to be affected by the harm of our family of origin, it is very important to learn to wean and say goodbye. You need to psychologically wean yourself off and tell yourself that your life is determined by you, not by your family of origin. You need to be enriching your inner mind, constantly enriching your inner self and asking yourself what you want out of life so that you can break through again.

It is not the family of origin that can influence our future, but your expectations of the future and your actions in the present. When you know that your family of origin does not affect you in its entirety, you can draw a realistic blueprint for yourself from your own inner perspective and aim to realise it with your actions.

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